Each one of us owes our existence to our mothers. Whether they were knocked out and missed our moment of entry into the world, or whether they remember every contraction and push, if it weren't for our mothers, we wouldn't be here today. Of course the days of our births were not the only time mothers stepped up for us. Some mothers were not involved in the birth at all, but took over the job of raising and nurturing through adoption or sometimes through becoming a stepmother or transitioning from grandmother or aunt when something happened in the family.
Mother's Day is the earliest date it can be this year, and maybe it is sneaking up on you. No card, floral bouquet or brunch can come close to properly paying tribute to our mothers and mom-figures for all they have done for us. That is not to say we should forego these traditional gifts and expressions of gratitude, but we believe there is a way to go further.
A phone call to let her know how you are doing and telling her how important she is to you can be done at any time, not only on Mother's Day. That brunch or dinner out for Mother's Day is delightful, but inviting her over and cooking for her is just as nice, less expensive, and allows for a longer, more intimate conversation.
Some don't have their mothers with them any longer, and some are estranged or distant. We hope most readers have a relationship with their mothers in which they can go to her for advice, a long talk, or just to remember that in this big, sometimes difficult world, there's someone who's always had your back, and your front, who is always in your corner and your biggest fan.
Mother's Day is a great occasion to thank your mother for all she has done for you over the years, but it's not the only time to offer thanks. She deserves so much more than that.
We pay tribute to all the moms who put bandaids on skinned knees and clean up after our messes, who listen when we need to vent after a particularly bad day, and give us just the thing we need, exactly when we need it, who give advice we didn't always take when we were younger, but now realize it was wisdom we could have used.
The best gift might be the one that comes from your heart that home cooked meal or note or photograph or just making time for that long talk over a glass of iced tea or cup of coffee.
To all the mothers: we salute you.